Peace. Ever log into your facebook account or any social network account and see posts like "A guy may flirt with the 'easy' girls but when it is time to search for his soulmate, he will look for one who respects herself and does not give herself away that easily"
I don't know how to put it into a simple sentence but I think you get me. Basically the message that it is trying to tell us is, guys may date/flirt/entertain the girls who are 'easy' and this carries a lot of meaning. These girls may wear revealing clothing, do not limit their social life, changes partners every week and so forth. So whenever I see these kind of posts I will also see these comments by the guys and the girls, respectively;
"Yes... This is true :)"
"Aw. This is why us girls must respect ourselves :')"
OK, for the girls - Let's just divide them into two groups. One is the group who understands this as - This is why we must respect ourselves, so that everyone else will respect us too. When you respect yourself, you earn the respect of others.
But wait! There is another group of girls who understand this as - It's okay for guys to mess around with all those girls. They won't even last long. At the end of the day, he'll come for me, that I know.
As for the guys, those who support this idea of 'let's just have fun before we really settle down' - you may kindly take a shovel and bury yourself, don't forget to take your mentality with you.
Can we please, for once, just see the bigger picture of the whole thing? This is why I hate these kind of statements, they're sending the wrong message to tweens and teens. (Especially tweens, no doubt) Take it this way: If there is a person who plays around with other girls and then one day he appears, being all,
"Hey. I like you, can I get to know you better? Oh, those girls? Look at how they act! I wasn't even serious with them. You're different, you respect yourself. I plan to have a serious relationship here."
Hahahaha get out.
I will never, ever approve this idea of how it is acceptable for guys to just be with anybody and then find a totally dignified girl and settle down with her. Just who the hell do you think you are, running round leaving scars collecting your jar of hearts tearing love apart you're gonna catch influenza with the DIRT IN YO SOUL.
Unless of course, the guy has totally changed. He abandons his player ways and really regret them. When a person changes it's really obvious. Remember, not those who from the very start think it's okay to mess around and then find himself a good person when he's ready. This is laughable, it isn't and will never even be accepted Islamically and I don't think the society should continue living with this destructive message. Guys can't always have it their way.
Hey I think I just heard someone scream feminism.
This isn't feminism, it's just plain logic. Use your head.
The one on top of your shoulders, that is.
Am i raising a teenager?
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